When Life Throws You Another Curveball: Choosing Growth Over Resentment

Life has been full of changes this season—or should I say, seasons. The kind of changes that stretch you, test you, and remind you that growth often comes disguised in chaos. Overall, I can see the beauty in it all. These changes are for the better, and I know deep down they’re leading me toward a greater version of myself.

But as life goes, the unexpected always finds a way to slip in.

Not long ago, a pipe in my house broke. What seemed like a small issue turned into several big problems—and an even bigger bill. The timing couldn’t have been worse: just a month and a half before I was preparing to move. Suddenly, I was facing an unexpected expense I didn’t ask for and definitely didn’t need.

This wasn’t something I could push to the back burner. I had to take action—fast.

And I did.

But here’s the thing: this wasn’t just about a broken pipe. It brought up a deeper layer of feelings I hadn’t expected.

The Weight of Old Wounds

For the past eight years, I’ve been on a journey to rebuild my finances after walking away from a toxic marriage. At the time, I had three children under the age of five depending on me. Every step since has been about survival, healing, and slowly putting the pieces of my life back together.

So now, eight years later, to finally feel like I was getting my finances in order—only to be hit with yet another challenge—it stung.

Can you relate?

Sometimes, it’s not the challenge itself that hurts the most. It’s the feeling behind it. The sense of betrayal, the exhaustion of “not again,” the frustration of knowing how hard you’ve worked only to be tested once more.

This situation left me feeling truly hurt. Resentful. Angry. And as much as I wanted to let it go, a part of me simply wouldn’t.

For weeks, I carried that anger around like a heavy backpack I refused to put down. I replayed the situation, felt the bitterness rise, and sank deeper into the spiral of resentment.

And you know what? That was exactly what was preventing me from moving forward and receiving the abundance I deeply desired.

The Process of Letting Go

Here’s the truth I’ve learned: letting go doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not a single decision. It’s a process.

1. Awareness. First, we have to become aware of what we’re carrying. For me, it meant recognizing that my anger wasn’t just about the broken pipe—it was about years of struggle, sacrifice, and old wounds that hadn’t fully healed.

2. Feeling. Next, it’s about allowing yourself to actually feel what’s there. So often we want to skip over the discomfort and go straight to “moving on.” But emotions need to be honored, not buried. I had to sit with my resentment, acknowledge my pain, and admit how deeply it hurt.

3. Releasing. And then, when you’re ready, comes the release. Sometimes it looks like journaling. Sometimes it’s crying, meditating, or even praying. For me, it looks like writing this very post—as a way to release the anger, pain, and resentment that has weighed me down.

Because at the end of the day, the longer I hold onto those feelings, the more I hurt myself. And I don’t want that pain to block the blessings I know are meant for me.

Choosing Abundance Anyway

Life is always going to test us. There will always be another pipe that breaks, another curveball thrown, another moment where things don’t go according to plan. But here’s the choice we get to make:

We can hold onto the anger, the resentment, and the “why me?”—or we can choose to process it, release it, and keep moving toward abundance.

I know now that I deserve peace. I deserve joy. I deserve financial freedom. I deserve love.

And so do you.

If you’re holding onto something heavy right now—whether it’s resentment from the past, frustration with the present, or fear of the future—I want you to remember this: you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel it. It’s okay to sit with it. And when you’re ready, it’s okay to let it go.

Because the truth is, holding onto it only delays the blessings that are waiting for you.

And you, my friend, deserve every single one of them.

✨ Here’s to releasing the heaviness, trusting the process, and making space for the abundance that’s on its way.

A Personal Note

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that unexpected challenges—whether emotional or financial—will always come. But when we have the right systems and strategies in place, those challenges don’t have to knock us down completely.

That’s why I’m passionate about helping others prepare, plan, and protect their future. If you’ve ever felt blindsided by life’s curveballs and want to feel more secure and confident about your financial journey, let’s connect.

You deserve to not only survive life’s challenges, but to thrive through them—and build the wealth and legacy you’re meant for.

If you’ve ever been hit with one of life’s curveballs and felt like it set you back, you’re not alone. I’ve been there too, and that’s why I share stories like this. If you’re ready to feel more prepared—financially and emotionally—for whatever comes next, let’s connect. Together, we can explore ways to create stability and peace of mind so you can keep moving toward the abundance you deserve.