How many of us can actually say we love ourselves? What does that even look like? What does that feel like?
For the longest time, I wasn’t able to accept and love the person I saw in the mirror. There was always a part of me that felt I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, the list goes on. Where did all these feelings began of not feeling enough? Just by asking this question, several moments popped into my mind. Moments that left a deep hurt that had me searching for someone to fill this void. And so, my boundaries and standards, if I had any, didn’t exist. And so with that a lot of heartache, a lot of tough lessons, a lot of pain. It took The realization that if I didn’t get out of a past relationship that I would end up in a hospital or worse. And on top of that I had three young children at the time. So I got out. One of the hardest things to do, because I wanted to hold on to this idea of a family, I didn’t want to be a statistic, and the idea that I would never find someone to love me- a single mom with three children.
When I got out of that toxic relationship, the idea of having someone in my life was the last thing on my mind. However, what had happen was it that it began my healing journey, my self love journey, a journey back to me. Getting out of that toxic relationship brought me to the most important relationship I could ever have, which was a relationship with myself. It was a journey to finding the things that I love, to love every part of the woman in reflecting back at me in the mirror- and yes, this is a still an ongoing journey as I evolved more into a confident, strong, unapologetic warrior goddess. This us the greatest work anyone can do is to work on themselves. It takes seeing our own flaws and loving them. It takes rewiring of the mind. And most of all it takes forgiving ourself. By doing the work on ourselves, we are able to love ourselves and in turn love others. It doesn’t mean say yes to everyone; however, it does mean setting boundaries around your values and saying no to those things that doesn’t resonate and saying “Fuck Yes!!” to those things that does. Truly understanding and living by our own free will, and free choice with love is our true power to create the life we dream.
And so, to the journey of self love. To the journey to LOVE.
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